Category Archives: Therapy Notes

Recently my father’s first true love contacted me – she had found me on the internet and was wondering if I was his daughter. The internet allows for extraordinary connections to take place because my father has been dead for … Continue reading →

For many people anger is seen as an intolerable emotion. This may be particularly true for women who are often socialised to be soft, compliant, nurturing and supportive. For some, anger has been deemed unacceptable because they grew up with … Continue reading →

Some researchers spend their lives working on equations to capture aspects of human behaviour. To be worth anything, the numbers – whether an equation or a ratio – has to be able to predict future, most likely behaviour. Here are … Continue reading →

GMF usually stands for Genetically Modified Foods. However in my life it stands for the three things that I need to do most days to stay okay through life’s ups and downs. G stands for Gym. I try to get … Continue reading →

Many people (most?) have a preferred way to numb uncomfortable emotions. We don’t like feeling disappointed, shame, anger, fear, grief or loneliness and so we find something to take the edge off – to allow us not to feel anything … Continue reading →

The modern Western world can seem a cold and frightening place to live.  It is  a world where spirituality, mystery, religion and living in tune with the seasons have been replaced by scientific explanations and a linear rather than a … Continue reading →

So New Year has come around again. This time of year is great for looking both back over the old year and forward into the new one. I find it helpful to pause and reflect on the old year: what … Continue reading →

You might have noticed (for example when a friend introduces a new love interest or if you’re in a bar and a friend points out someone that they find attractive) how much variation there is when it comes to who … Continue reading →

For those of us who have experienced loss of a loved one, this time of year can be particularly difficult. Alongside the fun and excitement of the holiday season often comes a reminder of love lost. Perhaps we can take … Continue reading →

As a parent, I’ve been spent some time reflecting on – if I had the choice – I would want my children to have no difficulties in life. Of course, the maternal, protective part of me goes: “Absolutely! I want … Continue reading →