Author Archives: Sophia
The power of parental attitudes
Most parents love their children and want the best for them. Sometimes, however, due to the parent’s own history of difficulties and trauma, they are unable to be the kind of parent that the child needs. There may be emotional … Continue reading
Temperature denial
So winter has come to Sydney. The first 10 years I lived in Australia, every winter I heard people say: “It’s unusually cold this year”. It took me a decade to realise that that wasn’t the case but rather that … Continue reading
Recommended books on the social brain and love
Loneliness: human nature and the need for social connection by J.T. Cacioppo & W. Patrick The neuroscience of human relationships by Louis Cozolino How to think more about sex by Alain de Botton Loving with the brain in mind by … Continue reading
Timing ladies and gentlemen
This week I was again reminded of two core issue in psychotherapy and how easy it is to get them wrong: 1) timing 2) interpretations. Timing, of course, is everything in therapy. You can have the best strategy in the … Continue reading
No games please!
Recently a number of you have asked me advice about how to handle dating situations where it isn’t clear what the other person is thinking (is it ever?). Here is a typical example that I hear again and again from … Continue reading
Reclaim Christmas!!
I have been out over the last few days to do a bit of Christmas shopping. We generally try to keep it at a minimum at our place – a zen Christmas if you like – but I wanted to … Continue reading
Mindfulness classes in February 2016
I have promised a number of you to put up the dates for the next series of mindfulness classes so here they are: Tuesday 16/2, 6-7.30pm Tuesday 23/2, 6-7.30pm Tuesday 1/3, 6-7.30pm Tuesday 8/3, 6-7.30pm The classes … Continue reading
Recommended Books on Wisdom
“Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha” Tara Brach “Opening the Door of Your Heart” Ajahn Brahm “Good? Bad? Who Knows?” Ajahn Brahm “When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times” Pema Chodron “The Wisdom … Continue reading
The wounded healer
Many years ago, C. G. Jung talked about “the wounded healer” suggesting that someone who has suffered difficulty or trauma will be better placed at helping people in distress. It’s an open secret that many people who go into the … Continue reading
Rewire Your Brain
My problem with a number of self-help books is that they give simplistic solutions to complex problems.The best outcome with these types of books is that they are no help whatsoever but the worst is that they can make a … Continue reading